Daisy took her own life, with her mother writing “she never got over what those boys did to her.” – she will forever be, twenty-three years old.
Rape and sexual violence have never been small acts of aggression easily forgiven – they go to the core of who we are, and it disrupts and corrupts the way society interacts with Survivors. Daisy experienced relentless bullying outlined in her 2016 Netflix documentary Audry and Daisy and sadly, Daisy’s everyday experiences are not uncommon.
Survivors are denied the opportunity for truly supported healing and recovery by a society that would rather they took their own lives than hold perpetrators accountable. This message is reinforced each time we blame the Survivor, we allow them to fall through the cracks, fail to place the blame squarely on the shoulders of the perpetrators, and make seeking justice and help almost impossible. With these factors, can we really say that Survivors have taken their own lives? No – because we as a society have enabled and encouraged them to do so. We have told them, and reinforced the message on micro and macro levels, that they are worthless and hold no value.
We can do better.
We are a nation capable of great change.
Every Survivor’s life has value and worth, and is deserving of supported healing.